judge not less ye be judged

I think that that is one of the most hardest lessons one can ever learn. To look at a person and his/her actions, and not condemn them, or place a label on them.
I've always wondered just HOW we were supposed to treat people who were obviously sinning. FOr example, homosexuals and prostitutes, gamblers, drunkards, addicts. If we shun them, like the rest of society, they will enver learn the love of GOd, and never find the strength to overcome their temptation. Yet if we just accept them into society, they might think that their actions are acceptable and continue doing so, or worse still, influence the people around them into sinning. I was discussing this with Nez, and we came up with this solution. That we state very firmly that we do not agree/condone these acts of theirs, but we are willing to associate with them, to be friends with them and love them, if they don't try to get us to join them. And then we just pray for them, continuously, and hope that God will enter their lives.
That aside, there is another sort of "judging" that i find very painful, and very sad. The kind where you know someone who has issues,like a big ego or major communication problems, and you don't tell them, but criticise them behind their backs. it's undertandable WHY one does it, simply because you feel that it is "mean" to tell them, but eventually when the person does find out (and rest assured he most certainly will), it'll be twice as painful for him/her. From my own experience on the recieving end of this treatment, i sincerely wish i had had someone to tell me that i had a swollen head, so that i might have changed, and repaired some of the damage i had done. But because i didn't, and i only realised that the people around me HADN'T liked me when it was all over and i never saw them again, it was a very painful lesson. Sometimes all we need is for someone to tell us our faults, gently, so that we will be able to see them in time. I've had a classmate, who from the first time i met her had loathed me. everytime i was friendly to her or talked to her, she'd give this murderous look and stalk away. I think it was my face that offended her or something, but i'll NEVER know, because she never said anything to me. I wish she'd have told me, so i might've considered changing. As it is, the only reason for her loathing might have been my looks (aka nerd).
To everyone out there, before you judge us, please let us KNOW, so we might change. It's the christianly way of doing things, i believe.